My childhood BFF got married today.
I was invited to the wedding, I didn’t attend.
You might be wondering why I would pass up the opportunity to go to one of my dearest childhood friends’ wedding.
The answer is quite simple, though it took a lot of debate to unravel. The truth is since we were about 15 I have put forth 100% of the effort to keep our relationship going. I believe wholeheartedly that all relationships should be give and take, they should seek win/win situations. From my point of view, this relationship has been lose/win for several years,
In my opinion, a wedding utilizes a lot of emotional effort, an effort I didn’t think our relationship deserved. I definitely didn’t want to set myself up for another lose/win situation.
I have nothing against this individual personally, I’m just done giving them my valuable time and attention when I could be spending both on things that result in a win/win and don’t leave me disappointed.
If a year ago I made the same decision not to attend this wedding I would have felt guilty as hell, after all, we practically grew up together. I would have gone and felt just as terrible because of the amount of energy I exerted without having any return.
